Simplify Sunday- Women and Friendship

birthday partyI’ve been feeling very introspective this week. I am prone to anxiety and over thinking things, so I try to focus my attention on the now, rather than the past or the future. However, sometimes living an intentional life means self examination.

Last week I mentioned that my favorite part of My 35 Project has been pushing myself to really connect with my loved ones. That’s still true. It has changed my perspective, and reminded me that it’s not selfish to take time out to nurture my friendships and relationships with my family. It’s actually what life is about, the core of it all. It’s easy to feel over scheduled and like spending time doing something for yourself is low priority, but it isn’t.

I was looking through the pictures on my laptop, and found this photo from my 30th birthday. Four years later, I am still very close to all of these girls, and I am so thankful for that. There are a couple of my girls that were missing that night, but they are the core of my support system ๐Ÿ™‚ When thinking about what I want to be, what I want my life to mean, et cetera; being a good friend to those I love is near the top of the list.

However, the realization that I have come to through all of this retrospection is that I also need to be my own friend. I need to prioritize myself, and love myself the way I would a friend. This is next to impossible for me, because I judge myself nine ways to Sunday. It’s been said over and over, but it’s so easy to be your own harshest critic. WHY? Don’t we have the rest of the world to judge us? Who is going to love us most, if not ourselves? This week I am vowing to be my own friend and show myself some love and understanding. The most simple concepts can be the absolute hardest, and I think that’s why I struggle with this. I can and will do better.

Jillian

A Friday Eve Poetry Interlude

Seattle SunsetA friend took this picture of the sun over downtown Seattle. It gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling, so I thought I would pair it up with a few poems and hope that it gives you a pick me up!

I am feeling a bit dreamy today, and getting excited for a few days off and starting my yoga binge!

Jillian

 

 

poem- untitledjumbled,

flowing from my mouth~

is my love for you

pouring far too quickly

for you to catch it

and make it worth my while

 

 

 

poem- indecisionindecision

it has always been easy

to find a reason to leave

i’m searching for perfection

in someone else

that i can’t find in myself

when it would be sweet

to just remember

why i want to stay

“Take Back What’s Yours” ~ Being Positive

takebackwhat'syoursThe “Take Back What’s Yours” campaign (started by Chloe) is all about bringing happiness to our lives with positive thoughts and actions, support, and love. The end goal isย to encourage people out there who may be struggling, by making the resolution to take back something that was once yours- the happy and fulfilled life you once had.

Having a positive outlook is one of the hardest things for me. I seem to be a natural born pessimist, and I’ve been trying really hard to change that. In addition to My 35 Project, I will continue to try to change myself into an optimist. This campaign just reminds me of how much better I feel when I’m focusing on the positive instead of the negative. If you want to play too, you can do the following:

  • Decide on a positive resolution you are going to set yourself
  • Write a blog post talking about this campaign, the message it contains, and why you are taking part
  • Tag 10 bloggers to participate, or just to encourage
  • If you want to, include a photo of yourself with a handmade Take Back What’s Yours poster

Nessa's post

I was tagged by Nessa of That Chic Fashion Blog, in this post. She did something really cool, that I’m totally going to copy. Instead of just tagging 10 bloggers, she wrote each one (she actually did 25) a little note about why she likes what they do. How amazing is that? It made me happy and encouraged, so I will do that same. None of you have to feel obligated to participate, but I wanted to give my shout outs!

Arielle of With All My Affection

Arielle~ You were my first blogger follower, so you will always be special to me ๐Ÿ™‚ I love your fashion posts!

Kim of And On That Note She Wrote

Kim~ I have so much fun reading about beauty products from a British perspective. I also think you’re awesome for loving Lush as much as I do.

Donna of My One Beautiful Thing

Donna~ You really do post one beautiful thing, and I love it. It always puts a smile on my face.

Kate of the Fancy Pants report

Kate~ You have my favorite OOTD posts. Sooooo much pretty, I can barely stand it.

Chelsea of Inspiration Indulgence

Chelsea~ Your blog is what I want mine to be. You are encouraging, thoughtful, and inspirational. You encourage me to slow down and do things the right way.

Sami of Flowers and Wanderlust

Sami~ You are much younger than me, and you’ve already figured out what I am just now embracing. It’s time to take life and live it for all that it is worth!

Lucy of Lucy Types

Lucy~ I am new to reading your blog, but I love it already. You’re creative and a talented writer. You make serious ideas interesting and fun.

assortmentbox

I like to read your posts for beautiful words to relax me and stimulate my brain at the same time. I also really appreciate how supportive you are of my blog!

Karen of Fill Your Own Glass

Karen~ First of all, I just love this name. That’s what made me look into it in the first place. What a great concept! I enjoy your outlook and your posts help with my search for optimism!

Hold Me, Don’t Hold Me

I love your posts about parenthood. They make me smile, make me laugh, and help me ponder my own ideas about having a baby.

Have a happy day!

Jillian

A Few Old Poems for a New Week

Poetry JournalIn my minimalism purge, I came across my poetry journal and thought I would share a few. I feel a little naked doing this, so I probably won’t post a ton. Let me know what you think! Do any of you like to write poetry?

I go through phases. I won’t write at all for months, and suddenly I’ll feel inspired and just scribble out a few for no apparent reason.

 

 

 

 

 

Happinesshappiness

a simple smile from you

calms my spirit

yet heats up my body

until it will boil over

if i am further deprived of your touch

 

 

 

 

Surfsurf

just like the waves

of the tumbling ocean

you are unpredictable

sometimes you rush to me

but just as sneakily you pull away

how can i believe that

the pattern will break?

when i suspect that only i will

 

Jillian