No One Ever Asks Someone Why They Eat Meat

veggie wingsI try not to make my food choices a huge deal in daily life. I make my choices for myself, and I expect others to do the same. I don’t bring up that I’m a vegetarian, but people notice when you don’t eat meat.

There are all sorts of questions that come up, but they all seem to fall in a few categories: “WHAT DO YOU EAT?!” “Don’t you miss meat?” “Can I eat this hamburger in front of you?”

Let’s start with what I eat. I made battered cauliflower with hot sauce and vegan yogurt to eat during the super bowl. Veggie and delicious! I find plenty to eat, always. I’m trying to lose 50 pounds. It’s not a problem, trust me… Here are some things that I eat often, in no particular order: oatmeal, smoothies, pasta, Indian food, french fries, soup, chocolate, fruit, veggies, bread, meat substitutes, hummus. Obviously some of my choices are smarter than others. I find that being a vegetarian is limiting in some ways, but I actually eat a much more diverse diet overall than I ever did before. It has made me more creative and more willing to try new things. I do not ever worry about protein. There is literally protein in nearly every food.

Do I miss meat? The short answer is an honest no, not at all. I know that not every vegetarian feels this way. My mom tells stories about how I hardly ever wanted to eat meat, and gave her no end of headaches over it. I never had a favorite meat based meal, not really. I’ve always been more into side dishes, sauces, and desserts. You know what I do miss? Marshmallows! I miss them more than anything else. I have found a few brands of vegan marshmallows, and my life is now complete again. I also miss not having to worry about what is in every single thing that I eat.

As for the last- I do not care at all if people eat meat in front of me. I don’t like that my choices make other people uncomfortable, and I wish it didn’t have to be that way. I want everyone to understand that they can be comfortable around me! I think that maybe people ask me this so often because they don’t like to see what I’m eating? I get a lot of comments about things like kale smoothies at my desk 🙂 I will say, I really don’t like to see people chew on bones. However, that grossed me out in my pre-vegetarian days, and my omnivore sister feels the same way; so maybe it’s not just me.

I think it’s strange that everyone wants to know why I don’t eat meat, but no one ever asks someone why they do. I suppose it’s because my way was a conscious choice, that evolved throughout my whole life. I’m going against the grain, but it feels like the only natural way to me.

What do y’all think about going against the grain? Sometimes it puts you on the offense, but it’s worth it. Minimalism, vegetarianism, bold fashion- it doesn’t matter. I think it’s worth it!



  1. The comments are questions I get from people when they find out I’m a vegetarian are always the same ones, and it can get old, but it’s kind of funny at the same time. Some people just don’t get it! I believe that I eat healthier since I’ve become a vegetarian. I pay more attention to what I eat, I try to get more creative with food, and I think it’s made me more cautious of my diet. Being a vegetarian is totally worth it!

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  2. Ha, oh yes…the questions that come with the plant based diets. I used to get annoyed by these, but it’s been so long now I just expect them. I don’t tell people about my food choices, but eventually if you hang around me long enough it comes out. Then the questions come, and usually they are fine. Some people are just clueless so I guess it’s a chance to educate them…or tell them to back off. HA.

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  3. I m a veggie, I know what you feel, have tried chicken too felt kinda rubbery but a bit tasty;) I love eggs btw so i guess i am an eggiteraian 😉

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  4. The battered cauliflower looks and sounds amazing! Mike and I made fried seitan (a.k.a. “wheat meat”) and vegan calzones to eat while we watched the Super Bowl (we mostly watched the Puppy Bowl, though, to be honest!) When people ask why I don’t eat meat, I see it more as an opportunity to explain rather than getting defensive, which is how I used to react. There’s that odd myth about how vegetarians and vegans are protein deficient when — you’re right — protein is in just about everything.

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    • I tried to watch the puppy bowl, but could only find snippets online. The puppies are so cute! Did you do a puppy fantasy team?

      Your menu sounds yummy, I’m getting hungry again. I want to make more cauliflower.

      Sometimes it’s hard for me to explain- it really depends on if the person is truly interested, or if they are just looking for a reason to pick on it. I work in food so I get a lot of opportunities!


  5. I’m not a vegetarian, but I’ve been on a strict diet for almost a year to lose the weight I gained after I quit smoking, and would you believe it? People question THAT choice, too! I honestly would have thought my fat ass would have been all the explanation necessary, but over and over I find myself having to explain that I don’t want to have a heart attack.
    I think the origin of most of the questions is guilt… or rather, an attempt to discover if they should feel guilt about their own diet. Or maybe they want to know whether we’re judging them for eating what they eat so they’ll know whether they’re obligated to hate us.

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    • I think that you are right, that’s the only thing that I can think of as well. I never say anything to people, but just the fact that I make the choice seems to be threatening. Congratulations on quitting smoking, how wonderful! It’s great that you were able to stop, and to stay on a strict diet afterward. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise 🙂

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    • I do not eat fried foods. Okay, 95% of the time I do not. Vacation is an exception- how else would I soak up all those cocktails ha! ha! This truly freaks people out more than you would believe, and I have no clue why. I have lost count of how many individuals have tried try convert me by offering me bacon or fries. Yes these foods are tasty, okay, very tasty! However, it’s not enough to make me want to dive into the world of fried food. This is a conscious decision I have made over two decades ago and I think my body and health is worth going against the grain!

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  6. I am not vegetarian, but enjoy many vegetarian foods. However, I do eat gluten- and dairy-free as much as I can (and my tummy thanks me for it). But in my group of friends, there are so many different dietary restrictions, preferences, or allergies that it is very common for us to have a whole conversation about the different foods people may or may not be eating and the reasons for it. I find it extremely interesting to hear about people’s choices.

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  7. I think being a vegetarian forces you to make better food choices then you normally would. Fast food is convenient but, when you consider what most have on the menu (chicken or beef) it deters you from eating that garbage.

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  8. I totally get you! They try to save you from your disasterous(!) choices about yourself :)))

    Same happens for me about not being a vegan !!!

    “How can you eat those cute animals?” they say. Well, how can you eat those cute plants?

    I am tired of explaining my leaky gut thing and I cannot eat dairy, wheat, soy, tofu, nuts, most of the beans, fruits etc. I only can eat some kinds of meat and boiled veggies although most of them are not allowed.
    They insist that there should be a way for me, to get out my carnivore self 🙂
    and I say, I love it man, sorry…

    Just say, “I love it this way”. And if they continue say what Dude (Big Lebowski) says:
    “Well, that’s your opinion man” 🙂

    I love your non-conformist ways of being yourself. Keep on being Jillian 🙂

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  9. 🙂

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  1. […] post was inspired by a post Jillian from How to Be Myself wrote regarding one of the top questions vegetarians are asked, “What do you eat?” […]


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